Lady Gaga Is Not Weird, and Neither Are Little Monsters

Every once in a while, I get a commenter here who tells me that if only I understood what Lady Gaga did for them, and if only I could relate to what she means to the freaks and misfits of the world, I’d understand what being a ‘Little Monster’ is all about.

Forgive me, Monsters, if such sentiments piss me off more than they enlighten me. Because here’s a little surprise for you: I have felt alienated and isolated practically since the day I was born. Virtually everyone who knows me considers me among the oddest people they’ve come across; there’s not a person alive who couldn’t call me eccentric. I don’t get along with institutions, I’m very bad at following conventions, and I’ve never gotten on well with most of my peers. I was practically friendless in middle school, and high school introduced me to only a precious few friends — none of whom I really feel like I strongly related to. College has been similarly disappointing, for me. There’s not a lot of warmth or intimacy in my life, I don’t find any joy in fulfilling societal duties (college/work), and I don’t have many people with whom I can share my love of ideas. I constantly wish that I could just fly away to an island somewhere and live a contemplative life with someone I love — whoever and wherever he may be. I just don’t fucking fit in, I never have, and I don’t anticipate that I ever will.

Hence, it is beyond insulting to me to be told that I clearly cannot appreciate the role of the outcast, and that if only I were able to relate to the alienated and eccentric, I’d understand why Lady Gaga appealed to people. In fact, having grown up as such an eccentric loner — which is certainly something I continue to consider myself — I am doubly baffled as to why anyone who proclaims himself such would identify with Lady Gaga. She is undoubtedly the most popular woman in the world right now; she is as far away from being an underdog as one can be. She became famous for singing about booze, penises, and sippin’ on bub at the club with Beyonce, and there really isn’t any evidence that she was ever considered weird or freakish until she became famous and starting parading around in meat dresses for media attention. Why in hell should I relate to this? What is the message? “Be weird, but only when you have a massive cult following!”

To shoot down an inevitable objection from commenters with no skill in logic: my point here is not that my favorites — Britney Spears and Justin Bieber — better relate to the outcast. None of them dobut Lady Gaga is the only one being marketed as a champion of freaks. It is beyond absurd. Her music is as conventional and formulaic as it comes. There’s nothing wrong with this; she tends to make glorious pop music: as I continue to reiterate, the problem with her is the disconnect between perception and reality. I love Britney and Bieber because there is no such disconnect: they are marketed exactly as they really are. As a commenter pointed out when someone compared Britney and Gaga to two different varieties of fast-food: that’s all well and good, but Lady Gaga is being marketed as a gourmet delicacy when she’s really just another Big Mac. Big Macs are tasty — but they are not delicacies.

Similarly, Lady Gaga makes great pop music. But she does not relate to outcasts. She is not a champion of underdogs, freaks, and misfits. If some kid happened to buy into the act and found their life turned around because of it, then that’s lovely. But they were saved by a marketing gimmick, not by a true champion of eccentric misfits.

Most importantly, the truly eccentric among us don’t want a label like ‘Little Monster’; we really are alienated from society and from our peers; we don’t just long for a little clique of our own. The Little Monsters seem to be a group of angsty kids who were upset that they never fit in. The truly weird among us don’t want to fit in with the crowd, and it’s beyond insulting to be told that we are the ones who don’t understand what it’s like to not fit in. Conformity masquerading as eccentricity is ridiculously absurd. The Little Monsters are like the kid from South Park: “I want to be different — like those guys, over there!” I’ll continue to chart my life path on my own terms while the Monster Cult punches itself out, thank you.

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20 Comments

  1. Goldfish
    Posted February 27, 2011 at 5:11 pm | Permalink | Reply

    I’m sorry people treat you that way. I was bullied for my weight and looks at school and it can be really damaging later on in life. I agree with most of this post, apart from the bit about Gaga’s fans not being weird. It’s true most of them are just wannabe’s or normal people, but I go on the Lady Gaga forums sometimes and believe me, there are a LOT of very strange people on there O_o

    • Alex Knepper
      Posted February 27, 2011 at 5:18 pm | Permalink | Reply

      I think that’s more a reflection of the Internet being home to a lot of weird people. The Internet has given unprecedented life to odd people: we can finally connect with people who relate to us on some level! Her fans might be ‘weirder’ than most, but they’re not eccentric, or misfits: not in the way that I mean.

      Insofar as they are weird, it manifests itself in their being more delusional and obnoxious than most stans for other artists; a part of me starts thinking ‘Well, no wonder no one wants to be friends with you; you treat everyone who disagrees with you about something as if they’re evil or hateful.’ If you insult Beyonce, the Beyonce stans will argue about Beyonce with you; Lady Gaga’s stans always turn it into an argument about the moral character of the person who dislikes Lady Gaga.

  2. Paws Up
    Posted February 27, 2011 at 5:53 pm | Permalink | Reply

    WHY should we not fight back and give you a piece of our minds if you and your Britney fans keep insulting us and trying to bring Gaga down? You really need to do something productive with your life!

    Please try to get it through your tiny brain that we little monsters stand up for ourselves and Lady Gaga because she does the same for us every day. We respect her enough to have her back when she needs it most and we’ll support her anytime. So if you keep up your shit and keep spewing this rubbish then you’re seriously going to regret it. We don’t play around and we’re for sure not going to put up with you freaking idiots.

    • Posted February 27, 2011 at 7:48 pm | Permalink | Reply

      I’ll ‘regret it’? You ‘won’t put up with it’? What is that, some kind of Internet Threat? Just cut the dramatics and argue your point…if you can. Please, give me a piece of your mind! I’m glad to argue. But stop with the histrionics.

    • LadyBritBrit
      Posted March 1, 2011 at 1:46 am | Permalink | Reply

      Madonna and her fans also hate you. Christina fans also are alienated (All five of them)…Kesha fans generally tend to not like Gaga (Again the “Obviously Talanted” pretentious versus the unpretentious “Clearly Untalanted” arguement). (I like ShaSha too)
      Gaga fans also bring up horrible things from Britney’s past to make her look bad. Don’t appreciate the art of picking a good song to “Cover”. Don’t know that a good song is a good song. God just go to Tv Tropes and look up complaints about Gaga and see how stupid you all are and how I can just feel how you will all move on from her the second she’s not The Most Talanted, Greatest Vocalist, Most Honest Songwriter and Multi Instrumentalist of Pop.

      Stop being so damn victim-like. You don’t put up with what Britney, Madonna and Kylie have really put up with as far as shit and drama and hatred and misunderstood feelings.
      Grow up!

      Gaga fans are the most stupid reaching fan base ever.

  3. Jazmin
    Posted February 27, 2011 at 5:56 pm | Permalink | Reply

    Her fans seriously scare me sometimes. A lot of them have connections to all these creepy internet hacking groups and stuff. Like Anonymous and The Butterflies.

    • Posted February 27, 2011 at 7:48 pm | Permalink | Reply

      Lol, ‘Anonymous’ is just a term for people who go to 4chan.org. It’s not a ‘hacking group.’ It’s not even organized. There’s no central operation. 4chan members relish trolling and tricking people; making people think they’re some Internet Hate Machine when they’re just a bunch of bored nerds with in-jokes, a few of whom can hack.

  4. CCCC
    Posted February 27, 2011 at 10:19 pm | Permalink | Reply

    YES. I have never known how to word this to ‘little monsters’, or maybe I just knew even if I did they’d ignore me. I’ve never been a girl to show cleavage, wear tons of makeup, or stay up with the latests trends, I didn’t even start caring about how I dressed until 8th grade. and I remember in 6th grade, my liefelong friends just stopped being my friends. I don’t know why, really, it’s 6th grade so it was nothing really dramatic, i’m pretty sure it’s because I didn’t dress cool or whatever. but it sucked because i’d go to recess everyday and sit alone, and i’d been used to, my whole life, hanging out with these friends at recess. I honestley, as a pitiful little 6th grader, contemplated suicide. Don’t be silly though, I knew I was never capable of it, not with my child-like-mentality, but i dreaded having to go to recess and be alone everday. but They didn’t stop being my friends because I was ‘eccentric’, fuck, I had no idea what that ment back then, they just stopped being my friends because i wasn’t ‘cool’ enough for them, and hell, I wasn’t by their standards! and looking at them now, as a junior in HS, I’m still not, but I started running track/XC and i MET people. people who are far better friends, who I had stuff in common with, etc. now I look at those 4-5 friends of mine from elementary, and although a couple of them are nice to me, if say, we are the same group in english or something, most of them seem boring and average, basically i have no desire to be their friend.
    one of my friends is actually the most ‘eccentric’ person i’ve ever met. she has strong opinons, holds nothing back, and just dresses however she wants. The other day she wore a full black-mens suits, shoes, tie, everything, just cause she felt like it. although I also have friends who either dress average, or one of my friends who’s an elite distance runner, or my best guy friend who is a blackbelt, etc. I don’t worry about running with one ‘group’ of people.
    actually speaking of my eccentric friend, shes more weird then I could EVER imagine gaga being. I’ve seen pics of Gaga from highschool, she’d fit right in with the ‘popular’ kids around here, so as far as looks go she wasn’t one to be made fun of.
    and I’ve heard her bullshit interviews. she’ll talk about how she was called a ‘freak’ because she wore a wig to class from the school play or something, and I’m thinking, wtf? she also says she she’d walk down the hallway getting called “bitch, slut” Maybe it’s because i go to a small school in a more rural area (although i’m 30 minutes from a big ten school), but that…doesn’t happen at my school? and we have some theater kids who are notably eccentric, and do all kinds of weird stuff. no-one calls them freaks. actually, a lot of people enjoy them and their company, because since they are in theater they are pretty outgoing and fun, even if they are saying usually crazy shit compared to the norm, or talk all loud and obnoxious. i mean, what kind of stuff do you have to do to walk down a hallway getting called a slut/bitch? maybe gaga was just, you know, annoying as fuck? she doesn’t look eccentric, she doesn’t talk eccentric, and her clothes are if anything what i’d call ‘mainstream eccentric’, shes no leigh bowery. and well, shes annoying to us. so i could easily see how her pretentious ass could get annoying, and thus make her feel ‘alienated’, when actually, she was being annoying and thats totally different from being outcast when your not an ass.
    when lady gaga first hit the scene wearing spandex/latex, with her nasty rashy-looking tan, and bleached hair with her ‘hair-bow’ and whatnot, I didn’t see anything more eccentric about her than the kind of stuff Katy Perry was wearing.

    • Posted February 28, 2011 at 1:30 am | Permalink | Reply

      Thank you for that good read, my fellow high school Junior! 😉

    • Andy
      Posted May 11, 2011 at 5:08 pm | Permalink | Reply

      ditto my friend. I’m 18 and can’t wait to be done with school for all the same reasons. I’m friends with gaga fans and people who are all together more brash and louder than I am. So for them to feel weird and alienated makes no sense to me considering their levels of confidence. GaGa is the same to me. How can she really believe she is a freak with the amount of confidence she has? i just feel that people like to call themselves eccentric or weird or an outcast because its now trendy as gaga has made it. I felt weird my whole life. In elementary and junior high i was the short kid. I just feel like people who can be so confidently “weird” aren’t half as much an outcast as they think whilst true outcasts suffer in silence i suppose.

    • Snitch
      Posted September 18, 2011 at 6:13 pm | Permalink | Reply

      “she also says she she’d walk down the hallway getting called “bitch, slut”
      That never happened to her – must be false news. People did use to write stuff on her gym locker though. And one guy literally threw her into a trashcan. All this sopping wet smelly rubbish in her hair and on her face. And the other kids just laughed and left her there.

  5. Adrian
    Posted February 28, 2011 at 4:53 am | Permalink | Reply

    “I constantly wish that I could just fly away to an island somewhere and live a contemplative life with someone I love — whoever and wherever he may be.”

    Err… mind giving it a go with me?

  6. Truth
    Posted February 28, 2011 at 9:32 am | Permalink | Reply

    Did you see her tweet earlier?
    ”Dyed my bangs black. It is my new monsterlook. Let the mitosis of the future begin. Off to meet Judas.”
    That’s deep.

    • Alex Knepper
      Posted February 28, 2011 at 9:57 am | Permalink | Reply

      LOL.

  7. Martin
    Posted February 28, 2011 at 2:49 pm | Permalink | Reply

    Well that’s the misconception that all Little Monsters are capable of pulling when they see they have no arguments to back up their story. I consider music and artists like you said above,like new food I either like it or I don’t. And Gaga is not something I like, but when you just state your opinion Little Monsters start insulting, analysing your life I mean WTF just because I don’t like something I don’t get it. So to continue I never considered myself to be weird or someone that didn’t fit in, but with Gaga on the scene normal people are misconceptioned about the gays more than ever. I know she’s the pop phenomenom of today but all that my gays, I love gays etc. have made many of the new people I meet to judge me more than ever, certanly it’s not something I care about because my friends know me, but I really get insulted when people relate you to Lady Gaga just because you are gay. I liked her music, but with all this things considered she made the general public even more deluded towards the LGBT community.

    And to summerise it’s not about that I was born this way and everything, but B**ch stop making people misunderstand us, I fitted more in this community of mine before Lady Gaga, but thanks to her now many people consider me weird, it’s not anymore Hey it’s the Gay Guy, it’s more like it’s the weirdo, so in conclusion Gaga has made LGBT community even more ”hated” and misunderstood by the general public,and it’s hard to relate to someone and like someone that made everything even worse…

    And just to add about that Gaga saved my life, b**ch if you think that she helped you, you are more deluded than ever, it’s OK to be different, but if you consider your life Gaga isn’t the one that helped you, it was just you helping yourself, go out there try making friends, find people out there, and get a life if you are still sitting there and watching Gaga and thinking she saved my life you fu**ing don’t deserve one if you’ve gonna spend it sitting by the computer and trying make people realize that she helped you, when in fact you just used something to get you out of your depression (I sometimes like to eat when I’m depressed, but I’m not gonna spend all my time bragging about buritos and how they’ve helped me).

  8. LadyBritBrit
    Posted March 1, 2011 at 1:40 am | Permalink | Reply

    “Conformity masquerading as eccentricity is ridiculously absurd.”

    Greatest line ever.
    Maybe I suggest you put that as the welcome line underneath Lady Gaga Is A Fraud at the top of your page. It would help people stop prejudging your arguements and it’s Lady Gaga:Defined.

  9. BritBrit lover
    Posted March 2, 2011 at 10:52 am | Permalink | Reply

    Lady Gaga is like a new toy. She’s new so everyone wants to play with it just as Britney was in the first couple of years of her career. But like every new toy the awe of it wears off and 2011 is the awe wearing off of Lady Gaga. Her fans can keep thinking that she will always be as popular as she was during the fame monster era but the truth is her popularity will begin to fade just as Britney’s did. There’s no denying that Britney isn’t popular now but I don’t think its anywhere near her popularity during her ITZ era. But the thing that kept Britney fans loyal was the fact that she was relatable. Lady Gaga is no where near relatable. She is so full of herself that people are starting to get annoyed with her and I think that’s why most Britney fans don’t like her. She hasn’t really proven herself to be a Queen of Pop. Britney went through Hell and back and came out just fine. I’d like to see Lady Gaga do that. She also had 2 number one albums with little to no promotion, I’d like to see lady gaga do that. Hell, i’d like to see Lady Gaga at least attempt to get a number 1 debut album!

    • IP-12
      Posted March 2, 2011 at 6:35 pm | Permalink | Reply

      I don’t get how she’s full of herself? She actually does a lot for charities, constantly praises other Artists(Don’t believe me? Look up her interview with Anderson Cooper. She calls Madonna the Queen of Pop yet again and says that ”no one can compete with Madonna. She is…the Queen.” And to add to that, she seems to genuinely love her fans with all her heart. I just don’t get the whole arrogant thing. I think it’s good she has a lot of confidence in herself.

      • BritBrit lover
        Posted March 10, 2011 at 6:07 pm | Permalink | Reply

        She’s full of herself because all she does is praise herself. I can’t remember another celebrity talking about how great they are as much as she does. She claims Born This Way will be the album of the decade when she could have said “I think this is the best album i’ve done!” and she thinks she is one of the greatest vocalist, performer, songwriter out there. Most of the praise her new album has gotten came from her. Most celebrities try to convey a sort of humbleness whereas gaga doesn’t.

  10. chaosakita
    Posted April 21, 2011 at 1:41 am | Permalink | Reply

    Hey, I just wanted to say I just discover your blog and I LOVE it. I think your thoughts have been almost a complete mirror to mine (and any ideological similarity to my ~very important opinion~ is automatic love from me). While, like you, I do like her music, there is just so much about her I don’t like. What I really enjoy about your blog is how you manage to honestly point out problems without getting all high and mighty about it. I’m looking forward to more articles!.

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